My prolonged absence

 

With my father in law terminally ill and declining raplidly, I knew I'd be a gone a while but had no idea it would be quite this length of time. That, and the chaos surrounding it, are the main reasons I didn't say anything just prior to disappearing off the face of the blogosphere. It all happened so quickly it's a blur now; I couldn't get a grip on anything, much less popping in to announce I wouldn't be popping in for the foreseeable future.

My father in law passed away on the 10th of November, after nine months' spent battling gastric cancer. We knew he was terminal but when he went into the hospital for the last time we didn't anticipate his rapid decline. It was as if someone had flipped a switch, it was so quick. We'd still been anticipating the potential of one last round of chemo, introducing another drug that may or may not have extended his life when it became apparent there were no more options.

The after-effects of our loss will be felt especially intensely during the holidays. We've already gotten through our first Thanksgiving without him; now it's time to face our first Christmas. Then, New Year's Eve, a holiday we always shared with my in laws. That will be especially tough.

My goal is to write an end of year wrap up but I don't expect I'll be up for much more than that through the end of 2012. You never know, though. I've certainly learned life is anything but predictable.

Until next time, stay well.

 

Comments

[Elizabeth S. Craig]

I'm so sorry to hear this (and just hearing it now...weeks behind in Google Reader.) Hope that the holidays and last night in particular weren't too painful for you and that you're comforted by memories of happier times with your father-in-law. Hugs and best wishes for 2013.

[Messi]

Heidi:These book expo podcasts are tifrirec! What a great idea and wonderful help for those of us who weren't there. I always look forward to the next book of life podcast and these were an extra treat. You're such an asset to AJL! Thanks for keeping us listening!Toby Harris

[Bluestalking]

Thanks so much for your kindness! I've received so many wonderful notes via email and so much support. I'm ready to delve back into the wonderful world of book blogging again and am working on my "Best of 2012" list.

Christmas went fairly well, considering everything. NYEve will be another challenge, as we've had my in-laws over to celebrate the holiday since about 2000. My mother-in-law will still be coming to spend the night with us and observe the NY, which is a good sign she's coming along as well as we could have expected.

Thanks to all, again.

Lisa
:-)

[Pam]

I'm so sorry. I pray that you and your family can find a measure of peace this holiday season.

[Mona]

Sorry about your loss - Missed you - Concerned about you - Happy you are back!

[lisa]

My prayers to you and yours. May your memories comfort you. Blessings, Lisa